Sometimes Sorry Just Ain't Good Enough

Sexual Harassment & Workplace Etiquette

Cultural Diversity: Paradigm 2002

Sometimes Sorry Just Ain’t Good Enough
By Deb Volberg Pagnotta
Published by the New York State Bar Association, Labor and Employment Newsletter, Winter 2004, Vol 29, No. 3, and re-printed with their permission.

I’m sorry.”
“I’m SORRY!”
“I’M sorry.”
“I’m SO sorry.”

            In conflict resolution, apologizing can carry great weight or be as meaningless as a sneeze.  As adversaries in any dispute move through conflict resolution, an apology may assume different forms and meanings, and obtain different results.  This is particularly true in employment discrimination disputes, where the conflict frequently results from unintentionally offensive behavior which has led to charges of a hostile work environment.  Potential plaintiffs will often voice to their (potential) lawyers: “I just want him to apologize!”             

Unfortunately, this sincerely-held desire typically evaporates as the resolution process progresses, particularly as it moves into litigation.  First, very few lawyers will take on a matter where an apology is truly the sole remedy sought.  Second, litigation is costly, and plaintiffs ultimately seek to recover those costs, necessarily in financial terms.  Third, our civil legal system provides limited remedies, either injunctive or financial: no court can order a defendant to apologize to a plaintiff.  Fourth, as litigation proceeds, the adversarial nature of our system generally ensures that parties become increasingly incensed at their opponent(s), rendering an apology at this point in the game financially valueless and emotionally meaningless.    
       
So, an apology, to be effective in resolving a dispute, should take place as early as possible in the process, preferably well prior to commencement of litigation.  (Once litigation starts, parties’ agendas change and, in truth, lawyers rarely encourage a “mere” apology as the sole resolution of a lawsuit.)  Even more important than the timing of an apology is its structure.  Many factors undermine ability to apologize effectively: fear of legal consequences, loss of face, resentment, failure to understand why the other party is even upset, gender and other cultural differences. Frequently, the offenders “apologize” in a manner that further annoys the offendee and exacerbates the problem.

Doing It Wrong

I’m sorry you responded the way you did:     In February, 2003, North Carolina congressman Howard Coble remarked on radio that during World War II, Japanese Americans were interned for their own safety: “We were at war.  They [Japanese-Americans] were an endangered species...For many of these Japanese-Americans, it wasn’t safe for them to be on the street.”  After Asian-American groups voiced their acute distress over these remarks which appeared to be an apologia for the U.S.’s subsequently discredited actions, Coble released a written statement that “I regret that many Japanese...found my choice of words offensive because that was certainly not my intent.”   Underlying message: I regret that these groups responded the way they did; I do not, however, regret my actual choice of words or what I said. 

“You say To-MAH-to, I say To-MAY-to” or “Read my heart, not my lips”: 
“When I use a word,” Humpty Dumpty said, in a rather scornful tone, “it means just what I choose it to mean, neither more nor less.” “The question is,’ said Alice, “whether you can make words mean so many different things.” “The question is,” said Humpty Dumpty, “which is to be master - that's all.”2

On January 7, 2003, Defense Secretary Donald Rumsfeld, responding to a reporter’s question about the possibility of reinstating the draft, said he saw no need because the all-volunteer system works better: “Big categories were exempted – people that were in college, people that were teaching, people that were married.  It varied from time to time, but there were all kinds of exemptions.  And what was left was sucked into the intake, trained for a period of months, and then went out, adding no value, no advantage, really to the United States armed services over any sustained period of time because of the churning that took place, it took enormous amount of effort in terms of training, and then they were gone.”  (Emphasis added.) Veterans’ groups and some Congressmen expressed outrage (“We are shocked, frankly, that you were apparently willing to dismiss the value of the service of millions of Americans, tens of thousands of whom gave their lives for their country in World War I, World War II, Korea and Vietnam.”3)  Rumsfeld, in a written apology, acknowledged his remarks on draftees were “not eloquently stated.” But then he noted that “a few columnists and others...have suggested that those words were intended to mean that draftees added no value to the military.  That is not true.  I did not say they added no value while they were serving.  They added great value.  I was commenting on the loss of that value when they left the service.”  He further said he had no intention of disparaging the service of draftees: “I always have had the highest respect for their service, and I offer my full apology to any veteran who misinterpreted my remarks....


I didn’t actually say what you thought I said: Rumsfeld further used the flat out denial “It is painful for anyone, and certainly a public servant whose words are carried far and wide, to have a comment so unfortunately misinterpreted...[and] particularly troubling...that there are truly outstanding men and women in uniform.....who may believe that the Secretary of Defense would say or mean what some have written.  I did not.  I would not.”  This type of apology can be very effective if, in fact, it is true.  But it is not useful, and in fact harmful to credibility, where there is actual documentation of the hurtful words themselves, in black and white.  This type of response is also known as “The Big Lie”4 (Surely he wouldn’t say that if it were not true!”) It is akin to then-President Clinton’s incorrect “I did NOT have sexual relations with that woman.

I’m sorry, but it really wasn’t my fault: After then-President Clinton finally acknowledged that he had indeed had, and had falsely denied, a sexual relationship with Monica Lewinsky, he “apologized” in a manner that only exacerbated the situation: This afternoon...I testified before the Office of Independent Counsel and the grand jury.  I answered their questions truthfully, including questions about my private life, questions no American citizen would ever want to answerStill, I must take complete responsibility for all my actions, both public and private....Indeed, I did have a relationship with Ms. Lewinsky that was not appropriate.  In fact, it was wrong.  It constituted a critical lapse in judgment and a personal failure on my part for which I am solely and completely responsible.  But I told the grand jury today and I say to you now that at no time did I ask anyone to lie, to hide or destroy evidence or to take any other unlawful action....I misled people, including even my wife.  I deeply regret that.  I can only tell you I was motivated by many factors....It is time to stop the pursuit of personal destruction and the prying into private lives and get on with our national life.  Our country has been distracted by this matter for too long, and I take my responsibility for my part in all of this.  That is all I can do....  (Emphasis added.)This apology is strewn with “weasel words.”5

I’m sorry my actions might have been inappropriate, but they were consistent with our then-effective policies which we are now revising:   Cardinal Bernard Law presided over the Archdiocese of Boston over many years during which extraordinary and horrific allegations of sexual abuse by priests have now been made.  Criminal prosecutions soon underscored the seriousness and truthfulness of the allegations.  At the outset of the burgeoning scandal, on January 9, 2002, Cardinal Law provided only an exculpatory apology, which did nothing to stem the outcry:


“While [the open and public discussion of sexual abuse]...is often painful, it has allowed us to address the issue more directly.  Only in this way can all of us be more alert to its dangers, protect potential victims....Fault lies in many places, not just with the priests.  All of us, including family members, should have been more alert.”  (This of course infuriated family members.)“I promulgated [in January 1993] a [relevant] policy....all priest personnel records were reviewed in light of this policy.  In those instances in which a charge of abuse had not been processed earlier with the rigor of our present policy, the case was re-opened, and the policy followed.  I am aided in such cases by a priest-delegate and by an interdisciplinary review board that examines each case and makes a recommendation to me.  This review board includes the mother of a victim, another parent, a clinical social worker, a clinical psychologist, a psychotherapist, a retired justice of the Supreme Judicial Court, a priest, a civil attorney and, usually, a canon lawyer.”  (“So, it wasn’t just my fault.”) “While our policy has been effective, we continue to refine our procedures....In August [2001] I directed that our policy be reviewed.  In September [2001] a panel of persons with special expertise began the review process.”  (“There just wasn’t a problem, but if there was, I took action by assigning ‘experts.’  If anything is wrong now, it is their fault.”) “However much I regret having assigned him, it is important to recall that John Geoghan was never assigned by me to a parish without psychiatric or medical assessments indicating that such assignments were appropriate. (“That is, it really was not my fault, but the fault of the doctors.”)  It is also important to state that it was I who removed him from parish ministry, that I then placed him on retirement, and that I finally asked the Holy See to dismiss him from priesthood (“I was the one who actually solved the problem!”) “That some should criticize my earlier decisions I can easily understand.  Before God, however, it was not then, nor is it my intent now, to protect a priest accused of misconduct against minors at the expense of those whom he is ordained to serve.  Judgments were made regarding the assignment of John Geoghan which, in retrospect, were tragically incorrect.  These judgments were, however, made in good faith and in reliance upon psychiatric assessments and medical opinions that such assignments were safe and reasonable.”  (This, of course, is the classic Nixonian post-Watergate syntax of “mistakes were made”: somebody made a mistake but that wouldn’t necessarily be me.)

 “Before God, we are trying to do the best we can.  In your kindness, pray also for me.”  This was the last paragraph of the statement.  Unfortunately, this -- his final plea -- can be interpreted as “I am doing my best, so leave me alone.  I am having a hard time, too, so please pray for me, I need it. Me, me, me, me.”

 I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m really, really sorry!: On Thursday December 5, 2002, U.S. Senator Trent Lott, then-Senate GOP leader, at a 100th birthday party for Sen. Strom Thurmond, said that Mississippians were proud to have voted for Thurmond in 1948 when he headed the pro-segregationist Dixiecrat ticket “and if the rest of the country had followed our lead, we wouldn’t have had all these problems over all thes3e years either.”  A bipartisan firestorm followed his remarks. 

On Monday December 9, he issued a short written apology: “A poor choice of words conveyed to some the impression that I embrace the discarded politics of the past.6  Nothing could be further from the truth, and I apologize to anyone who was offended by my statement.”  On Wednesday, December 11, as criticism continued to grow, he gave several interviews in which he said his “terrible” and insensitive” remarks were meant only as a gesture of affection for Thurmond. 

On Friday December 13, he said “I have learned from the mistakes of the past.  I ask and am asking for forbearance and forgiveness....I’m not about to resign for an accusation for something I’m not.” 

On December 16, he appeared on Black Entertainment Television, and denied he was a racist: “To be a racist, you have to feel superior...I don’t feel superior to you at all.   [The] important thing is to recognize the hurt that I caused and ask for forgiveness and find a way to turn this into  positive thing, and try to make amends for what I’ve said and for what others have said and done over the years.”  “I’m trying to find a way to deal with the understandable hurt that I have caused.  You can..say it was innocent, but it was insensitive at the very least and repugnant, frankly.”
On December 20, Lott announced his resignation as Senate majority leader.
 

I’m sorry to everybody and anybody who may have been offended, although I don’t understand WHY they were offended, and obviously they have no sense of humor: In January 2003, MTV nearly sparked an international incident by parodying the Mahatma Gandhi, a revered Indian spiritual leader, on an animated series (Clone High, USA).  The then-new program presented a cartoon version of Gandhi as a teenager with an affinity for long earrings, rap music, junk food and wild partying.  After a crowd in India demonstrated against the depiction, MTV issued an apology: “MTV U.S. apologizes if we have offended the people of India and the memory of Mahatma Gandhi.  We have the utmost respect for Gandhi and all that he represents as a revered Indian leader and one of the most important figures in world history. ...We recognize and respect that various cultures may view this programming differently, and we regret any offence taken by the content in the show.”  (Interestingly, the media in India characterized this apology as “unconditional.”)

In 2002, basketball player L.A. Laker Shaquille O’Neal outraged the Asian American community when he trash-talked Houston Rockets’ Yao Ming: “Tell Yao Ming, ching-chong-yang-wah-ah-so.”  (He made the comment on June 28, 2002, and it was replayed several times on radio in December 2002.)  After an advocacy group for Chinese Americans protested, O’Neal said “I said it jokingly, so this guy was just trying to stir something up that’s not there.  He’s just somebody who doesn’t have a sense of humor, like I do....I mean, if I was the first one to do it, and the only one to do it, I could see what they’re talking about.  But if I offended anybody, I apologize.”  When the furor continued, O’Neal attempted another apology:  “Yao Ming is my brother.  The Asian people are my brothers.  I grew up an Army kid.  I grew up around Asians, around whites, around browns. [This also falls into the category of “my best friend is [name the category] and therefore I couldn’t be racist/agist/etc.]  It was a bad joke.  Don’t try to make a racial war out of it.”  The NBA issued a statement stating O’Neal’s comments were “insensitive, although not intentionally mean-spirited,” and therefore no further action was necessary.

Doing It Right

Myriad factors may impede or impair an offender’s ability to apologize, including cultural differences such as language, gender and status.  However, it is often possible to craft an apology which transcends these differences.  Legal concerns may also affect the decision to apologize, but this article addresses those situations in which apologies are legally viable.

Here’s how to do it.  To be effective, an apology should:  be made swiftly, with no foot-dragging; focus on the actual speech or action which was offensive; refer to the offensive act itself, not a de minimus, peripheral act; recognize the responsibility of the offender; acknowledge the hurt of the recipient of the behavior (but do not discount the pain); agree the act was wrong; explain why the offender did what s/he did; be in the first person (do not issue a written statement, or have your office issue a statement on your behalf -- it diminishes the sincerity and immediacy of the apology); and actually apologize.

In 1995, then-N.Y. Senator Alfonse D’Amato on a radio show used an exaggeratedly heavy accent associated with Japanese movie stereotypes to mock Japanese-American Judge Lance Ito, then presiding over the O.J. Simpson trial.  The next day, after an initial outcry, D’Amato issued a short written, unsuccessful “apology”which only created more controversy: “If I offended anyone, I’m sorry.  I was making fun of the pomposity of the judge and the manner in which he’s dragging the trial out.” 

The following day, the Senator did it right.  On the Senate floor, he personally read into the public record 7:  “I’m here...to give a statement as it relates to that episode. It was a sorry episode.  As an Italian-American, I have a special responsibility to be sensitive to ethnic stereotypes.  I fully recognize the insensitivity of my remarks about Judge Ito. My remarks were totally wrong and inappropriate. I know better.  What I did was a poor attempt at humor.  I am deeply sorry for the pain that I have caused Judge Ito and others.  I offer my sincere apologies.”8

Epilogue:  Apologies, sincere as they may be, do not always offer prophylaxis against future accountability.  Senator D’Amato (who became teary-eyed when senatorial race opponent Bob Abrams9 called him a “fascist” in 1992) in 1998 called his opponent, Chuck Schumer, a “putzhead.”10  Schumer won the election.

1.  Thanks to Joe Mathews, The Thelma Records Label.

2.  Through the Looking Glass, Lewis B. Carroll.

3.  Letter signed by Senators Tom Daschle (South Dakota) and John Kerry (Massachusetts) and Rep. Lane Evans (Illinois).

4.  The big lie is defined as "the intentional distortion of the truth, especially for political or official purposes."  Adolph Hitler wrote that "[t]he great mass of people will more easily fall victim to a big lie than to a small one." Mein Kampf, vol. 1, ch. 10 (1925)

5.  “Weasel words. If your information is less than conclusive, acknowledge that either in summary or by choosing another argument. But don't undercut your argument with weasel words -- empty palliatives such as ‘to a certain degree,’ ‘it may seem likely that,’ or ‘in some cases.’ If your points are weak, they need no additional burdens. Note how much stronger the following become as the bracketed words drop out: [It may even be, as] some experts have hinted that Thomas More was [somewhat] suicidal [anyway].
 
Josiah Royce was [to some extent] the Hegel of American philosophy.

Weasel words dilute your thought, and hence your argument. See, http://www.collegecampus.com/writing/eschew5.html#weasel, “How To Eschew Weasel Words.....and other offenses against language and logic: a manual for students.”  Ronald Walters and T.H. Kern.
 

6.  This of course is a version of the “I say what I mean, I mean what I say” from Alice in Wonderland: “Then you should say what you mean,” the March Hare went on.  “I do,” Alice hastily replied; “at least--at least I mean what I say--that's the same thing, you know.” “Not the same thing a bit!” said the Hatter. “You might just as well say that ‘I see what I eat’ is the same thing as ‘I eat what I see!”  “You might just as well say,” added the March Hare, “that ‘I like what I get’ is the same thing as ‘I get what I like’!”  “You might just as well say,” added the Dormouse, who seemed to be talking in his sleep, “that ‘I breathe when I sleep’ is the same thing as ‘I sleep when I breathe’!”


7.  The New York Times, April 7, 1995, p. A1.

8.More recently, Arnold Schwartzenegger during the gubernatorial recall election in California was dogged by rumors and reporting of sexually offensive behavior occurring over many years.  Now-Governor Schwartzenegger effectively dodged the bullet with an apology that met the criteria above-noted.  Within only a few days of the allegations being reported, he addressed a rally where he acknowledged "where there is smoke there is fire....Yes, I have behaved badly some times, yes it is true that I was on rowdy movie sets....I have done things I thought were playful that now I recognize that I have offended people.  I want to say to them that I am deeply sorry about that, and I apologize because that is not what I was trying to do."  He added “When I am governor I will prove to women that I will be a champion for women. I hope you will give me the chance to prove this."

9.  “Bob Abrams would probably be a United States Senator today if he hadn't muttered the word fascist when he had run out of other adjectives to describe Al D'Amato in the final stretch of the 1992 New York Senate campaign.”  Lawrence O’Donnell Jr., “Open Mike Nightmare,” New York Metro.com, http://www.newyorkmetro. com/nymetro/news/politics/ columns/nationalinterest /3791/.  “If the recent history of New York Senate races is any guide, elections have a tendency to boil down to one oversimplification. In 1998, Senator Chuck Schumer won after it was revealed that incumbent Al D'Amato had called him a "putzhead" in a closed-door meeting. In 1992, Mr. D'Amato won re-election when Bob Abrams called him a "fascist."  Snyder, Gabriel, “The Murky Steve Emerson Surfaces in the Senate Race,” New York Observer, November 5, 2000

10.  Putz means penis in Yiddish, but the term “putzhead” is frequently used rather affectionately to mean fool or idiot.


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Sexual Harassment & Workplace Etiquette
by Deborah Volberg Pagnotta
(c) 1999 Interfacet. All rights reserved.
Published by Mulligan Security Corporation and re-printed with their permission.

We all hear horror stories about sexual harassment -- in the newspapers, on television, on radio, even in the movies. It can be a threatening topic. Sometimes we hear that a person who made a legitimate claim was fired. Sometimes we hear that a person made a false claim, wrongfully hurting the reputation of a fellow employee. Some people at work may feel uncomfortable or angry even discussing this issue because they worry that they may accidentally offend a co-worker or supervisor.

What IS Sexual Harassment?

Sexual harassment -- a type of sex discrimination -- is prohibited by Title VII of the federal Civil Rights Act of 1964 as amended, and by the New York State Human Rights Law and other states’ laws. Also, Title IX of the federal Education Amendments of 1972 has been interpreted to prohibit sexual harassment in the classroom. Harassment can be male-to-female, female-to-male, or same sex.

There are two types of sexual harassment:

"Quid Pro Quo"
Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, or other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature when submission to such conduct is made a term or condition of employment or submission to, or rejection of, such conduct is used as a basis for employment decisions. ("Quid pro quo" is Latin for "this for that.") Quid pro quo harassment is always from a supervisor to an employee, and is the use of authority at work to obtain sexual favors.

  • Hostile Work Environment
    Severe or pervasive unwelcome sexual conduct, verbal, visual or physical, which has the intention or effect of unreasonably interfering with a person’s work or academic performance or creates an intimidating or offensive workplace or academic environment. This type of harassment is sometimes more difficult to identify or describe -- but it covers behavior by a supervisor to an employee, an employee to an supervisor, between co-workers, and even from a non-employee to an employee, at the worksite.


    Workplace Etiquette

  • 1. Be professional.
    When at work, behave professionally. Friendliness at work is fine and can certainly make the workplace a better place to work, but when at work, focus on work, not your social life. Consider whether you would want your remarks quoted or your actions videotaped. If not, reconsider whether your behavior is appropriate for the workplace.

    2. Be courteous.
    When you are at work, don’t use obscene language. Some people are very offended by it. Don’t tell dirty jokes. At the workplace, don’t use endearments to address people. People may be uncomfortable with the use of terms of affection at work.

    3. Be thoughtful.
    Age, gender, religion, or position in the company may shape how an employee or co-worker perceives you. If you supervise a person, or are in a position to assist them, or hurt them, in your organization, then they may feel intimidated by you. Supervisors and managers should be particularly careful about having social contacts with employees.

    4. Be careful.
    Socializing at work, at school or off-site may be perfectly appropriate. But remember, if you are interested in pursuing a relationship with a co-worker or student, no means no. Don’t assume it may mean yes. Respect the co-worker or student’s statements and feelings.


    Prevent Sexual Harassment

    1. Be straightforward.
    If a co-worker or supervisor asks you out, be pleasant and honest. If you are not interested, just say no. Don’t give a mixed message.

    2. Be discreet.
    The workplace is a place to work. Don’t discuss your personal life at great length with many other employees. If you are dating a co-worker, remain professional in your conduct at work.

    3. Don’t be shy.
    If a co-worker or supervisor says or does something, in a sexual manner, that makes you uncomfortable, courteously tell that person and ask him or her to stop. Often a person does not know that they are making you uncomfortable, and will stop immediately. Behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable may not necessarily be sexual harassment. But, it is important that you speak up. By your silence, it may appear you are encouraging or approving inappropriate behavior.

    4. Follow up.
    If your co-worker or supervisor continues the harassing behavior, review your organization’s employee handbook or sexual harassment policy, and, if possible, follow the procedures provided. Speak with your union representative, supervisor or human resources manager. If it is your supervisor who is engaging in the troubling behavior, speak to another supervisor or fellow employee. Be specific, give dates, times and witnesses. Explain why you feel uncomfortable.

    Let’s be specific.

    What behavior is illegal or inappropriate or may be misinterpreted?

  • Sexually suggestive or obscene written materials (letters, e-mail, notes, invitations)
  • Speech such as obscene comments, threats, slurs, jokes about gender-specific traits
  • Physical action such as blocking movement, pinching, coercing sexual intercourse
  • Unwanted touching, such as brushing against another employee’s body, or touching someone else’s clothes
  • Visual communication, like leering or staring at another person’s body, displaying sexually suggestive objects or pictures, cartoons, posters or magazines
  • Continuing to express sexual or social interest after being informed that the interest is not welcome
  • Suggesting that failure to accept a request for a date or sexual intimacy will affect an employee’s job prospects (e.g. implying or withholding support for a promotion or change of assignment) or suggesting that a poor performance report will be given because an employee has declined a sexual proposition
  • Offering work benefits, such as promotions, favorable performance evaluations, favorable assigned duties or shifts, recommendations in exchange for sexual favors.

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  • Cultural Diversity: Paradigm 2002
    by Deborah Volberg Pagnotta
    (c) 1999 Interfacet. All rights reserved.
    Deborah Volberg Pagnotta, Esq., is President of Interfacet, Inc., which trains employers and employees on sexual harassment, cultural diversity and other employment issues; conducts neutral fact-findings; and mediates disputes. She may be reached at (914) 997-8888, 81 Main Street, Suite 300, White Plains, New York 10601, or www.interfacet.com.

    Focus on Diversity
    Cultural identity has taken on heightened significance, at home, at work, and in places of public accommodation. For political, legal, economic and sociological reasons, government organizations, as employers and service providers, carefully must begin to understand and address issues of cultural diversity.

    Demographic Changes. Dramatic population changes are taking place in the United States. The number of Americans of Hispanic origin jumped by 58 percent over the past decade, to 12.5 percent of the total population. African-Americans climbed to 12.9 percent of the total, an increase of about 16 percent. Asian-Americans have almost doubled their presence since 1990, to 4.2 percent of the total population. In 1970, one in twenty U.S. residents were either foreign-born or first-generation immigrants. Now the ratio is one in five.

    New York State is a hub for many of these significant shifts in population. Statewide demographic changes include an increase in the number of Americans over 65, youths under 18, and single parent and same sex households. Census 2000 reports that much of the State’s diversity is centered in New York City: for the entire state, 75.3 percent of Hispanics and 75.3 percent of Asians who reported only one race lived in the five boroughs of the City. The growing Hispanic and Asian populations in the City has become ever more diverse. The community of those of Mexican heritage has tripled in size since 1990, and Asian Indians have almost doubled. The so-called “minority” populations themselves are extraordinarily diverse: a self-identified Hispanic or Latino may hail from Mexico, Puerto Rico, Cuba, Chile, Columbia, perhaps Peru; a Black may identify as African-American, Caribbean or African; Asians may be from China, Korea, Japan, India, Pakistan and so on. Each has distinct and unique national cultures.

    These and many other social developments increasingly are reflected at the workplace. Jobs which once were traditionally homogenous – all white, or all female, or all young – are now kaleidoscopic. At the hospital, the woman wearing the green scrubs may be the surgeon; the man is identical scrubs may be the nurse. Cultural assumptions also have evolved. The teenager in baggy jeans and knapsack may be the newly wealthy CEO of a dot.com. The young male customer wearing a diamond earring may not be gay but simply fashionable. Casual dress Friday has become casual dress week. Email has become the communication device of choice, nudging out the telephone. Maternity leave is now frequently called parental leave, as more men take the opportunity to spend time with their family, often under the federal Family and Medical Leave Act, enacted in 1993.

    Current Events. The events of 9/11 underscore the need to address increasing cultural diversity at the workplace. Prior to the terrorist attack on New York City, probably the most publicly discussed current concern in race relations was racial profiling of African-Americans by law enforcement agencies. Today, federal, state and local government agencies are struggling to define how best to structure security measures against potential attacks by fundamentalist Muslim groups and other organizations seeking literally to destroy our country. As service providers and employers, these agencies must walk a delicate balance between determining appropriate measures and ensuring individual and community rights.

    Government entities also must address the marked increase of discriminatory and hostile actions toward Muslim, Arab, Middle Eastern and Southeast Asian employees, clients and customers, or even those merely perceived to be a member of one of those groups. The federal Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (“EEOC”) has reported that since September 11, 2001, discrimination complaints by Muslims have nearly tripled (to 427 from 171 in the same period the year before). Discriminatory actions against Asians and Middle-Easterners have included racial slurs, threatening phone calls and even homicide. Reportedly, after 9/11, a quarter of these discrimination complaints involved ethnic and religious profiling at airports and workplaces, and nearly 20 percent involved government agencies including local law enforcement authorities. (In response to the increase, the EEOC issued a document on October 1, 2001, “Employment Discrimination Based on Religion, Ethnicity or Country of Origin.” See, www.eeoc.gov/facts/fs-relig_ethnic.html.)

    What is Cultural Diversity?
    Diversity is more than the “protected classes.” We often think of cultural diversity as simply comprising the categories protected by our federal, state and local anti-discrimination laws: e.g., race, religion, national origin, gender, marital status, sexual orientation, age, disability. As a nation we believe that these listed characteristics should not determine how a person is treated at work or at a public accommodation. However, the nature of culture itself runs much deeper than those limited categories.

    Culture includes learned patterns of behavior, socially acquired traditions, repetitive ways of thinking and acting, attitudes, values and morals. Cultural programming specifies rules for acquiring and transferring information. It standardizes perceptions. It also defines attitudes for intragroup relationships and for dealing with nonmenbers. And it sets the institutional parameters that condition human behavior and stabilize social systems.

    Culture standardizes relationships, so that people need not be constantly mindful of the implications of their behavior. They can make reasonably confident assumptions about the reactions of those with whom they interact. From the economist’s perspective, culture reduces transaction costs. The codes for interpreting external information, classifying forms of potential behavior as acceptable or not and perceiving social rank are all passed from one generation to the next through a system of reward and punishment. Successful cultural programming leads to ethnocentrism, a belief that one’s own culture is normal and, perhaps, superior. Frequently, other cultures are perceived as inferior.

    Individually, differences may include age, gender, race, physical traits, parental status, sexual orientation, ethnic and religious backgrounds, socioeconomic status, birthplace and hometown, and social, even political affiliations. At the workplace, additional differences which inform our attitudes and perceptions may include seniority, experience, position, education, training, salary, belonging to a union, full or part time, permanent or temporary. All affect our interactions.

    Often, cultural traits are embedded and unperceived by the individual with that set of beliefs. Cultural differences may include language and communication, appearance and dress, food and eating habits, time and time-consciousness, rewards and recognition, roles and responsibilities, values and norms, sense of self and of space, mental processes and learning styles, and beliefs, values and attitudes. Each of these traits informs our workplace interactions, at best enhancing the work and at worst leading to misunderstanding, miscommunication and failure to perform effectively.

    Literature is replete with documentation of the ways in which our culture impacts our interactions. A recent striking study affirms that, at the workplace, race-related values influence how employees perceive and react to others, resulting in interracial conflict. In short, says the researcher, the African-American community highly values emotional expression, whereas those of Northern-European heritage tend to favor moderation of expressive behavior and discourage strong expression of emotion in a conflict situation. In a conflict situation between two individuals of a different race, where for example one worker feels slighted by another, these expectations and preferences may exacerbate the conflict. The study also found that individuals are less confrontational with offenders of their same racial group.

    “Discriminatory” Behavior
    Notwithstanding the prohibitions against illegal discrimination, we all use “discriminatory” behaviors. The ability to distinguish friend from foe is crucial to our existence. Humans are wonderfully equipped to categorize others based on visual, verbal, physical and social cues. Yet, we often lack “cultural competence,” that is, the understanding of cultural characteristics of communities other than those in which we have grown up. Key differences between cultures are generally not the obvious ones, but rather invisible differences in expectations, values, goals and communication styles, such as the example in the previous paragraph. It is clashes of these differences that most often cause misinterpretation and miscommunication. So it has become ever more critical to develop a greater cultural competence, as individuals, as employers and as service organizations.

    Issues arising in multicultural workforces and communities include incorrect assumptions about diverse cultures, expectations that others will conform to a “norm,” language problems leading to miscommunication and misinterpretation, biases against the unfamiliar, and finally, “traditional” American values coming in conflict with values of other cultures.

    The possibilities are endless. An employee whose cultural background includes a high “casual touch rate” may inadvertently distress a client of the opposite sex who is a traditional Orthodox and Hasidic Jew and uncomfortable with such contact. The police in the Jon-Benet Ramsey case apparently failed to secure the crime scene swiftly because of their assumption, based on the wealthy neighborhood, that the child’s absence must be a kidnaping. A thin female supervisor off-handedly dismissed an employee’s claim of sexual harassment, saying that because the employee was “overweight,” the alleged harasser would have had no sexual interest. An African-American customer may be offended and feel disrespected by a Korean employee who avoids direct eye contact. English-speaking employees may resent bilingual coworkers speaking to each other in Spanish or other languages: while the communication may be utterly innocuous, it can feel exclusionary to the English speaker.

    We may even offend with the best of intentions. John Molloy’s self-help book, “New Dress for Success,” reprinted in 1988, provides a chapter “Some Advice for Minorities,” which advises, amongst other things, “When selling to middle-class blacks, you cannot dress like a ghetto black”; “Do not wear jewelry and never wear Afro hairstyles or any clothing that is African in association.” Shawn Brooks, an account executive for the Eagles Radio Network in Philadelphia, and an African American was stunned in 2001 when his supervisor gave him Molloy’s book and he read that chapter. He later filed a successful discrimination charge with the Pennsylvania human rights commission.

    Governments and Diversity
    As government workforces themselves become more diverse, they also must reconfigure their functions to meet the needs of the changing communities. Government entities are, by definition, service organizations. Much of their work involves interfacing with community groups, individuals, businesses, officials from other federal, state and local governments, not-for-profit organizations, and other myriad “clients’ or “customers.” Diversity issues arise not just between employees, but between employees and the communities they are “servicing.” A systemic approach to diversity issues should be integrated into both a municipality’s internal operations and its interactions with the public. Absent such effort, the entity may face poor workplace morale, diminished productivity, failure to effectively perform essential functions, and, at worst, discrimination litigation. All of these results render it more difficult to ensure the cohesive, high functioning workforce necessary to best serve the public.

    By squarely addressing diversity issues and developing more culturally competent workforces, employers will reap myriad benefits. Morale will improve, as employees feel included and empowered. Constituents and customers will benefit from the municipality’s better understanding of community needs. Your organization will profit from increased productivity and from the increased vision of seeing situations through different perspectives. Following are some proven suggestions.

    Practical Solutions
    Recruit wisely, consistently and broadly. Cast a wider net. Reach out to a broad spectrum of communities early on in multiple ways. Recruit from middle schools, local youth groups, religious institutions, the military, local colleges and universities, including predominantly minority institutions. Learn from other governmental or service organizations. The New York Times reported on April 3, 2002, that the New York Fire Department, traditionally white and male “would embark on a new recruiting campaign aimed at addressing a historical problem: its failure to hire enough blacks, Hispanics and women as firefighters....[T]he department [will] spend several million dollars, in government and private funds, on a program to attract candidates from minority groups through billboard advertising, television commercials and meetings with church leaders.”) Generally, of course, the recruiting does not have to cost millions!

    Enact anti-discrimination policies and procedures. While managing diversity is far more complex than simply prohibiting discrimination at the workplace, nonetheless promulgate such policies and procedures for your department. These set the tone for the department, inform your workforce what is expected of them, standardize in-house responses, and may limit potential liability against discrimination claims. If your organization has an employee handbook, confirm your commitment to diversity in that manual.

    Train and educate your workforce. Provide on-going training to management, supervisors and staff on the principles of non-discrimination and cultural competence. Not only will training enhance employees’ communication skills, but possibly may provide some insulation against potential liability . In 2001, the Seventh Circuit Court of Appeals, ruling against an employer on an age-discrimination claim, noted that although the employer had an anti-discrimination policy, its failure to train its hiring managers evidenced its “[indifference] to whether its managers followed [the] law.” The training should address internal issues within the entity as well as diversity awareness when dealing with the public. Such trainings may range from EEO (Equal Employment Opportunity) laws and cultural sensitivity workshops to skills-based workshops which enable employees and managers to become culturally competent and even more effective communicators.

    Mentoring and Coaching. Establish programs to mentor and coach new or non-traditional employees. Such programs, which may cover a variety of cultures such as age, race, gender, provide numerous benefits. These include: increasing employee understanding of the organizational culture and its informal rules; increasing employees’ connections throughout the workplace and their ability to get things done; increasing employee loyalty and commitment; boost productivity with transfer of learning; cultivating leadership and raises the quality of job performance; heightening the organization’s reputation as a good workplace and assists recruitment; and accelerating inclusion of new or non-traditional members of the workforce. Also, the mentor provides professional and organizational assistance, often regarding the unwritten rules of the corporate culture, while the mentee provides a senior person with the opportunity to gain insight into other cultures in the organization.

    Create a diversity panel. Designate a diverse group of employees, managers and staff, to address organizational diversity issues. As every workplace is unique, the solutions should reflect your organization’s distinctive needs and concerns. A panel or task force should accomplish several things: evidencing the commitment of senior level management; ensuring that employees are part of the solution; and addressing the specific needs of your organization rather than applying a cookie-cutter approach. Solicit the panel’s input in decision-making; this will assist in broadening the “we’ve-always-done-it-this-way-and-therefore-can’t-change” approaches..

    Practice what you preach. Model behavior for employees. Management behavior continually reinforces what is appropriate and what is not. Reward employees and managers who display high levels of cross-cultural skills and competencies. Other employees will model themselves after coworkers or supervisors who are held in high esteem by management.

    Update your website. A well-designed website which addresses diversity will enhance recruitment efforts, and send a strong message of inclusion to your present and future employees as well as to your community. Check the websites of major private businesses – many provide excellent examples of such design. Do not rely on standard EEO/affirmative action language; use language which addresses the broader spectrum of diversity.

    Endnotes

    i. Note that Hispanics can be of any race. The term “Latino” refers specifically to individuals whose ethnic heritage is South or Central America. For discussion of political ramifications of use of either term, see “Living in Spanglish,” by Ed Morales, St. Martin’s Press, pub. March 2002.

    ii. Although much of the shift has occurred in New York City, change has taken place across New York State. For example, in 1990, the total population of Westchester County was 874,866. Of that, 10% (86,194) were Hispanics; 120,195 (14%) were African American. By 2000, the population had increased, by nearly 50,000, to 923,459: 16% were Hispanics (a 67% increase) and 15% were African American (a 9% increase).

    iii. Reid, Karla Scoon, “U.S. Census Underscores Diversity,” March 21, 2001, Education Week, www.edweek.org. Sachs, Susan, “For Many American Muslims, Complaints of Quiet but Persistent Bias.” New York Times, April 25, 2002.

    iv. “More Insulted and Attacked After Sept. 11,” New York Times, March 11, 2002.

    v. “Bias Incidents Against Muslims Are Soaring, Says Islamic Council,” New York Times, May 1, 2002.

    vi. Scully, Gerald W., “Multiculturalism and Economic Growth,” National Center for Policy Analysis, NCPA Policy Report No. 196, August 1995

    vii. Davidson, Martin N., “Know Thine Adversary: The Impact of Race on Styles of Dealing with Conflict,” Darden Graduate School of Business, University of Virginia, December 14, 2001.

    viii. In 1992, African-Americans rioted in Los Angeles, most violently in Koreatown. This was fueled in part by cultural miscommunications. Korean storeowners would avoid eye contact with their customers and would place change on the counter rather than in the customers’ hands. Although in Korean culture, these actions signify respect, the opposite applies in African-American culture.

    ix. Bruton, Mike, “Eagles radio employee wouldn’t go by the book,” Philadelphia Inquirer, March 19, 2002.

    x. Mathis v. Phillips Chevrolet, Inc., 269 F.3d 771 (7th Cir. 2001).

    x. Davidson, Martin N., “Keeping Color in Corporate America: What Generates Organizational Commitment for Managers of Color,” Darden Graduate School of Business, University of Virginia, January 4, 2002.

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